CASEY CONSULTING, INTIMACY COACHING

Mission

I believe to be human is to be vulnerable. That we learn the most about ourselves through intimate connection and that experience is far & away our best teacher.

We all have fear, self-doubt, loneliness, and no small amount of denial. We are hurting, hurtful, and desperate to avoid feeling vulnerable. Hesitant to state our needs, we rush to build walls or lose ourselves in our partners. We stumble, fumble, occasionally score, and could sure stand to improve on that record.

Physicality is the only way to know experientially what you know conceptually.

I'm a firm believer in talk therapy. However, intimacy coaching is experiential healing. While it's helpful to have an intellectual understanding of one's issues, self-knowledge is rarely enough. With me clients move past the intellectual and theoretical, to a place of authentic engagement from their inherent intuitive core.

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COMMON ISSUES I WORK WITH

My typical client

...is male, 20-70+ years old, married or single, often recently divorced, widowed, or retired. Some are former workaholics, shy and socially awkward men, late-in-life virgins or just inadequately experienced men. Many grew up in hyper-religious families, with childhood bullying, sexual abuse, or other past traumas. I also see many well-adjusted men with occasional to pervasive feelings of mild to moderate disconnection &/or sexual dysfunction.

I do not see women or couples at this time.

My coaching can address

sexual inexperience
dating anxiety
performance anxiety
loss of confidence
body image issues
premature ejaculation
delayed ejaculation
unreliable erections (ED)
anorgasmia
diminished functioning due to age, illness, injury, or surgery
porn dependent erections
religious shame
low desire
emotional &/or physical disconnection
a simple desire to maximize your sex life
...and more

Client Testimonials

I cannot recommend and endorse KC enough. At our first meeting, she accurately and quickly saw that I had intimacy issues, where I had thought I merely (merely!) had sexual dysfunction. Her training plus the several homework exercises and the recommended reading has me well on the road to a complete recovery, I am confident. I have just booked a third appointment.

Redbob1911

Finding Kristin has been a God-send. She has helped in so many ways, which includes helping me realize the exact type of partner I need in my life. She figured it out in about five seconds - mind you, this is something I haven't figured out in a couple of decades. Her guidance has dramatically changed my dating life and sexual life, and I am eternally thankful.

Normally I’m not the type to go out of my way to write reviews, but I can’t stress this enough. Kristin saved my life, and helped me transform into a more confident person. I was a late in life virgin, and she helped me develop confidence that I didn’t know was inside of me. Confidence talking with women, confidence in the bedroom. I would recommend Kristin to anyone that has a similar life experience as me, because she is the best at what she does. I would give her more than 5 stars if I could.

Austin

Sessions with Kristin were great! She was patient and gentle. She had a lot of 'games' to help me come out of my shell and be a bit more comfortable. Unfortunately, I moved away, but I would have returned for more sessions, if I was still in Austin.

SMR

I haven't been this happy for 9 years and I really believe if not for KC it would have never happened. She gave me such a confidence boost and taught me that my heart could thaw one day if the right situation came along. I really believe she was my new partner's forerunner for me, and I am so grateful for that.

As a highly anxious person I definitely had my concerns how things were going to work out during a weekend session. KC made me feel very comfortable through the whole process and definitely knows how to deal with people.

Ted

KC helped me so much to gain confidence and skill in the area of sexual relationships. She is smart, kind, affirming and non-judgemental. Her unique combination of conversation and hands on experience helped me to break through my personal barriers to productive and satisfying sexual relationships. I am grateful to have her in my life as an intimacy coach and give her my highest recommendation.

Steve

Kristin was very methodical, and adaptive to my needs. She shared many insights into how I could be more sexually assertive and effective at attracting and arousing a woman. What I learned with her has evolved beautifully. My girlfriend should be writing this post but Kristin is my best kept secret. :)

Craig

Kristin did an amazing job helping work through my post-divorce issues. She got me back on-track from a self-confidence, self-understanding, and sexual confidence standpoint. I really believe it was a blessing that I found her, and I couldn’t recommend her more highly!

DATING HELP

Flirting Skills & Seduction Techniques

Body language, subtle cues, implied consent, and healthy boundaries are complex topics and choppy waters. We'll walk through a host of scenarios using experiential skill-building and date scene role playing to break through confusion over when and how to proceed, such as whether to come on strong, slow the heck down, pull back entirely, or let her take the lead.

You'll learn how to:

Be a good listener and read her subtle signals
Make the first move (and make it a killer)
Set a pacing that works for you (both)
Pin her to the wall, melt her with a kiss, and much much more

Mock Dates

The ideal way to launch your transformation is with a real-time assessment of dating strengths & weaknesses. After 1-3 lunches or dinners I'll provide a thorough analysis with specific input to help smooth out your social or romantic rough edges.

Highly recommended for recently divorced and widowed men, or anyone held back by shyness and inexperience.

Online Profiles & Communication Strategies

I'll polish your online profile and communication strategies (cold approach, flirtatious reply, or kindly worded rejection) so you don't seem overbearing or wishy-washy, are neither underestimated nor overlooked. You'll gain clarity on issues of chemistry, compatibility, shared values, and the following:

DISCLOSURE: What are your best qualities and how can we get them across? What are you looking for? What are your preferences, deal-breakers, and must-haves?
DISCERNMENT: What turns you on? What "type" catches your interest and why? Where have you been fooled or unpleasantly surprised? What clues & cues do you miss?
DIALOGUE: How to be mysterious & playful versus coy & cagey. Assertive versus pushy or needy. How to elicit and reveal. Empathize, connect, and intuit.

INTIMACY ISSUES

Progressive Intimacy Coaching

Whether emotional, physical, or sexual, intimacy can make life worth living or feel absolutely terrifying (sometimes simultaneously). My exercises address longstanding or recently acquired performance anxiety, pleasure avoidance, and a variety of sexual dysfunctions.

Through focusing on sensation, communication, attunement, mindfulness, and embodiment, you'll discard antiquated constructs, form new neural pathways, and get out of your head & into your body, thereby increasing your capacity for pleasurable connection.

Progressive Intimacy Coaching is by far the most common type of session I do. (Some dating coaching often gets thrown in, as needed, on a case-by-case basis.) Sometimes the client knows exactly what he needs, which skills and strategies he lacks (or has but could be improved). Other times we learn as we go. It all starts with an invaluable (and mandatory) free 30 minute phone consult that guides me in creating the most effective first session for you.

Emotional disconnection is as prevalent as erectile dysfunction. I work with both to great success as two tips of one massive iceberg. Vast are cases of low confidence, porn dependency, body image issues, miscommunication, anxiety, stuck-ness, unreliable erections, premature ejaculation, inhibited orgasm, diminished pleasure, and insufficient experience.

Intimacy coaching sessions are an adventure we embark on together. It's powerful life-changing work. And more often than not, a heady enjoyable experience.

Sex Ed

It's easy to talk about getting "out of your head and into your body," but less easy to do without certain skills & knowledge. Advanced techniques will give you a leg up in this vital area. Once you're engaging from a space of self-assurance you'll more easily form intimate bonds that further your newfound confidence.

Please note, Sex Ed sessions are available upon completion of a progressive intimacy series, not as stand-alone sessions.

RATES & HOURS

$300-400/hr

Available noon-5p, Mon-Sat (& some Sundays)

Deposits may be required

Dating Coaching

($300/hr, 3hr/900 minimum)

Frequently combined with intimacy coaching, though may be sole session focus

Sessions last 3-4 hours (5hrs/day for an intensive)

Intimacy Coaching

($300/hr, 3hr/900 minimum)

Frequently combined with dating coaching, though may be sole session focus

Sessions last 3-4 hours (up to 5hrs/day for an intensive)

Intensives

1 day (5 hours) = $1400

2 day (10 hours) = $2600

3 day (14 hours) = $3800

Sex Ed add-on ($400/hour)

For clients who've completed a progressive intimacy coaching series only

Kristin Casey