I believe to be human is to be vulnerable. That we learn the most about ourselves through intimate connection and that experience is far & away our best teacher.
We all have fear, self-doubt, loneliness, and no small amount of denial. We are hurting, hurtful, and desperate to avoid feeling vulnerable. Hesitant to state our needs, we rush to build walls or lose ourselves in our partners. We stumble, fumble, occasionally score, and could sure stand to improve on that record.
I'm a firm believer in talk therapy. However, intimacy coaching is experiential healing. While it's helpful to have an intellectual understanding of one's issues, self-knowledge is rarely enough. With me clients move past the intellectual and theoretical, to a place of authentic engagement from their inherent intuitive core.
My typical client is male, aged 25-70, married or single, often recently divorced, widowed, or retired. They are recovering workaholics, painfully shy and socially awkward men, later-life (aka unintentional) virgins (or just inadequately experienced), as well as well-adjusted men with occasional to pervasive feelings of mild to moderate disconnection &/or sexual dysfunction. I do not see women or couples.
"I haven't been this happy for 9 years, KC, and I really believe if not for you it would have never happened. You gave me such a confidence boost and taught me that my heart could thaw one day if the right situation came along. I really believe you were [my new partner's] forerunner for me, and I am so grateful to you for that."
~BP (long-time widower in a new relationship after three months' coaching)
Body language, subtle cues, implied consent, and healthy boundaries are complex topics and choppy waters. We'll walk through a host of scenarios using experiential skill-building and date scene role playing to break through confusion over when and how to proceed, such as whether to come on strong, slow the heck down, pull back entirely, or let her take the lead.
You'll learn how to:
The ideal way to launch your transformation is with a real-time assessment of dating strengths & weaknesses. After 1-3 lunches or dinners I'll provide a thorough analysis with specific input to help smooth out your social or romantic rough edges.
Highly recommended for recently divorced and widowed men, or anyone held back by shyness and inexperience.
I'll polish your online profile and communication strategies (cold approach, flirtatious reply, or kindly worded rejection) so you don't seem overbearing or wishy-washy, are neither underestimated nor overlooked. You'll gain clarity on issues of chemistry, compatibility, shared values, and the following:
Whether emotional, physical, or sexual, intimacy can make life worth living or feel absolutely terrifying (sometimes simultaneously). My exercises address longstanding or recently acquired performance anxiety, pleasure avoidance, and a variety of sexual dysfunctions.
Through focusing on sensation, communication, attunement, mindfulness, and embodiment, you'll discard antiquated constructs, form new neural pathways, and get out of your head & into your body, thereby increasing your capacity for pleasurable connection.
Progressive Intimacy Coaching is by far the most common type of session I do. (Some dating coaching often gets thrown in, as needed, on a case-by-case basis.) Sometimes the client knows exactly what he needs, which skills and strategies he lacks (or has but could be improved). Other times we learn as we go. It all starts with an invaluable (and mandatory) free 30 minute phone consult that guides me in creating the most effective first session for you.
Emotional disconnection is as prevalent as erectile dysfunction. I work with both to great success as two tips of one massive iceberg. Vast are cases of low confidence, porn dependency, body image issues, miscommunication, anxiety, stuck-ness, unreliable erections, premature ejaculation, inhibited orgasm, diminished pleasure, and insufficient experience.
Intimacy coaching sessions are an adventure we embark on together. It's powerful life-changing work. And more often than not, a heady enjoyable experience.
It's easy to talk about getting "out of your head and into your body," but less easy to do without certain skills & knowledge. Advanced techniques will give you a leg up in this vital area. Once you're engaging from a space of self-assurance you'll more easily form intimate bonds that further your newfound confidence.
Please note, Sex Ed sessions are available upon completion of a progressive intimacy series, not as stand-alone sessions.
Available noon-5p, Mon-Sat (& some Sundays)
Deposits may be required
($300/hr, 3hr/900 minimum)
Frequently combined with intimacy coaching, though may be sole session focus
Sessions last 3-4 hours (5hrs/day for an intensive)
($300/hr, 3hr/900 minimum)
Frequently combined with dating coaching, though may be sole session focus
Sessions last 3-4 hours (up to 5hrs/day for an intensive)
1 day (5 hours) = $1400
2 day (10 hours) = $2600
3 day (14 hours) = $3800
Sex Ed add-on ($400/hour)
For clients who've completed a progressive intimacy coaching series only
Please use the Contact button at bottom of this page
To arrange a free 30min phone consult, download the "Intro Form" linked directly below (all fields in red are required), then email your completed form—either as an attachment or cut & paste into the body of your email—to:
KCaseyConsulting [at] gmail.com
I'm available for phone consults with 1-5 day notice.
To book a session, 5-7 day notice is preferred.
I look forward to hearing from you!